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Oh, yeesh, I haven’t been writing on this topic for like seven months. Guess you do forget about certain topics when you’re too broad. o_o
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Before we start, let’s clarify those few things again:
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  • I will not agree to the statement that men (or women) are superior. Both have equal qualities, though may be better in different departments.
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  • I’ll be taking the stereotypical view of both genders, just so I don’t have to keep saying “but there are exceptions!” and making myself sound like a broken recorder. I know there are exceptions, just don’t make me repeat that so many times. =(
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  • The reason why I’m doing this is not to belittle the other gender, it’s for me (and hopefully, my boyfriend~) to understand the differences between the two, and maybe even appreciate them! I know I appreciate him knowing the roads better than I do. xP
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  • This has nothing to do with the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. I’ve read an excerpt of it, but this is not meant to steal things from there. This is to inform people (who’re interested enough to read this, anyway) in a way that I understand with my own experience!
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Okay, now let’s start~!

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Men and Venus? On Gender Differences

Chapter 2: Too Focused, Blur-case, or Deaf? Too Excited, Aggressive, or Just Can’t Stop Talking?

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Sometimes, I see complaints of one person on the other gender. Like, “ZOMG, he just doesn’t listen to me! I told him that so-and-so happened and to do this-and-that, but he doesn’t listen!!” or “ZOMG, she just talks too much! Why doesn’t she shut up?!”
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Sounds familiar?
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My boyfriend and I haven’t really encountered this problem badly yet. Or rather, he hadn’t complained to me yet. Though for me, sometimes I can see the truth in these complaints.
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Like, for example, sometimes when I talk and talk, he doesn’t respond. It’s like, “Hey, you know, next time we should go to so-and-so and do this-and-that!”
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Silence.
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Girls, like me, tend to wonder, “Hey, did he hear me or not?”
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Yep, it sounds familiar.
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However, there’s most likely a reason behind that.
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When I do ask my boyfriend if he heard (after a bit of talking and little response), he actually heard me. What’s more, he could repeat most of the information I gave him!
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Yeah, he did miss out some information, but who cares? He heard me!
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But hey, what about other couples? Why are there so many arguments on why he don’t listen and why she talks too much?
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After a lot of reading, I can finally come here and write a blog post about it. It helps me understand my boyfriend, too. =D

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Part 1: Back to the Prehistoric Days…
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Yep, we date back all the way to the prehistoric days where we all still live as cavemen. Back then, the roles of males and females were pretty clear cut; men go hunting all day and bring back hunted animals (for food, clothing, weapon materials, etc), while the women stay home, guard the home, and gather fruits, herbs and stuff.
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As quoted from Kat Caverly (link at the bottom of the post):
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“Men evolved from hunters who didn’t do much talking. (If you’ve ever seen your grandpa and uncles hunt and fish, you know this to be true. Hours and hours go by, and no one speaks.) While there is evidence to support that communication was needed among early hunters, most of it was done prior to setting out to hunt, leaving little for discussion during the hunting trip itself. This was practical. Too much noise (conversation) would alert the prey — at best scaring it away; at worst turning hunter into hunted.

On the other hand, women went out-and-about not to hunt, but to gather. As they did this activity in groups, they would keep up a stream of conversation in order to make sure no one had fallen behind or prey to animals. For a woman, conversation was literally life itself!”
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Further quoted from a commenter on the post by Kat Caverly:
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“Along with that, women were responsible for raising the children, and being sensitive to communication was/is key. Such as the need for details, tones, and the “closeness” or intimacy that is entwine in women’s conversations.”
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Makes sense, right?

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Part 2: Talking and Listening Today
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And so, that prehistoric trait difference brought along the complaints; men don’t listen and women talk too much. This difference even brought along quotes from famous people through the ages.
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But is it really true?
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Research showed that the female brain is more geared for language and emotion related stuff, due to that part of the brain being bigger (this is writing from memory gained from reading, so I forgot the name o_o). They’re also basically better equipped for multitasking, since the connection between the two hemispheres of the brain is bigger compared to that of the male brain.
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But, while this finding concludes that women do talk more than men (6,000 words compared to 4,000 words… wait, what?), other research show that this is nothing more than a myth. As said by an article from PBS: Language as Prejudice:
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“When women and men are together, it is the men who talk most. Two Canadian researchers, Deborah James and Janice Drakich, reviewed sixty-three studies which examined the amount of talk used by American women and men in different contexts. Women talked more than men in only two studies.”
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What?! That’s the complete opposite!!
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Forget the women talk too much part…

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Part 3: Difference Between a Talking Man and a Talking Woman
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What difference? Both men and women use words!
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Duh.
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Well, aside from that, people of both genders use speech for different purposes.
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For a start, men talk for informational purposes; they don’t like talking unless it’s information requesting or information sharing or something. That explains why guys talk more than girls, huh? After all, we’re in the information age!
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Guys also have a heavier tendency towards actions. Once you gain the necessary information, act on them. That’s what they did during the prehistoric times, right? Device hunting plan, then carry out hunting plan and don’t talk during action.
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Women, on the other hand, use communication mainly for relationship building. When feeling anxious or happy or anything, they feel the need to share the emotions with someone else, and from this communication, they form relationship with each other. Even during prehistoric times, they talk to ensure that their friends are still around (you hear her, then therefore she’s safe, right?) and to pass the time while they gather. So basically for them, talking = better relationship.
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See the big difference here?

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Part 4: Difference Between a Listening Man and a Listening Woman
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Remember what I said about the prehistoric times when guys don’t talk much and girls talk a lot?
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When the guys go hunting, they talk before the hunt, then they stay silent during. Their focus is always on the prey, so that it doesn’t get away.
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The consequences? Most of the time, guys have a single-track mind. When they focus, they focus hard and do one thing really well, but they don’t really hear anything else.
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Sure, guys can multitask, but not all of them can do things and listen at the same time. Which reminds me of Ammaro’s post (link at the bottom of this post):
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It happened again, today. My wife called me when I was coming home from work, and the conversation (well, the part I heard anyway) went something like this:

“Hi honey, can you ….. by the supermarket … get …. …… ……, some tomatoes….., …. ,….. ,…… ….. , ok dear? Thanks. Bye”

…so now i’m at the supermarket, buying what she wanted; I pick up the tomates and… Hmm… I can be pretty sure she mentioned FIVE items. Why do I only seem to remember one? Umm…

Ok, time to call her again. Uhh, honey, what did you say you wanted?

“Get ….. fat-free white cheese,….. ….. ….. tomatoes, and ….. …., with the …. …. next to the …. counter, ok? Bye…”

So I go to the cheese section, but realize there’s like 3 million different varieties of fat-free cheese. Dammit, another phone call. What was that cheese you wanted hon? And what else?

“Yeah, …. was the Kraft fat-free cheese, and by the way, ….. ….. ….., …. you find a pack of …., and a family pack diet coke”

I swear to god, I must have called her 6 times today while I was in the supermarket… to pick up 5 things!
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It cracked me up. xP
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Guys are easily distracted. He hears his favourite tune in the background, there goes his mind. You tell him things during a movie, he doesn’t remember much of it after that.
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I can relate to that, too. When I tell my boyfriend things while he’s driving (women’s favourite past-time o_o), he remembers less than if I lock him in a quiet room and run off with his book. So I learned my lesson and make sure I run off with his book before I tell him things!
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Well, that’s the guy.
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For girls, when they do things, they respond better when you call them in the middle of things. They multitask well (though they may not be perfect), so they pick up information better when they multitask. That’s because, as mentioned in the previous section, the two hemisphere of the female brain is better wired compared to the male brain.
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So… where’s the problem?

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Part 5: Problems in a Relationship

Now that we know the difference between a talking/listening man and a talking/listening woman, now we can see what’s up with the couples who complain about their partners.
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When a guy loves a girl, he doesn’t say “I love you”, because guys don’t like to look weak and vulnerable. He acts out on the feelings of love, and gestures and actions become important. Action speaks louder than words, in the guy’s case.
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When a girl loves a guy, she says “I love you” often. She talks a lot and always conveys the feelings in words, and she always wants to touch (hug, kiss, etc).
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So when the problem occurs?
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Due to the fact that there are differences in talking/listening needs between the two couples, both needs are not fulfilled. Women talk, thinking that the men don’t listen enough, but the men get swamped with all the words and responds with actions.
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Both feel that the other doesn’t understand them, and this turns into a fight.

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Part 6: So… what now?
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Compromising. That’s the only way the vastly different male and female can be happy together.
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Understanding that a guy acts out on feelings rather than say it, and understanding that a girl needs to talk and hear things to feel secure.
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Of course, that doesn’t mean it’s always the woman who does the talking and the guy who does the, well, non-listening. There are certain times when a guy talks more than a girl. Take my occasional situation, for example… nowadays, when I talk to my boyfriend, I try not to talk too much, and sometimes I drop the subject when he doesn’t respond all that much. I became not-so-sensitive to his near lack of response when he listens, because… well, I do that myself sometimes. When my boyfriend becomes enthusiastic on something, he, too, will tell me loads of information about it; how it goes, what happens, what he thinks about it, etc… similar like the way I do it. Sometimes, though, it becomes too much information for me, and I couldn’t do anything but nod dumbly. I do try to understand and ask questions, of course… but I do lack the pro grey matter he has (mentioned in Article #1: The Map Question: “Why’re you reading it upside-down?!”)! I may be on the programming side, but he stores more information in his head than I do. @_@
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Still, knowing and understanding is the first step to a good relationship. And writing this article has helped me to understand loads!

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~Estrelita Farr, not so insecure~!

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References:

  • Kat Caverly: Why DO women talk so much? (Link)
  • PBS: Language as Prejudice: Language Myth #6, Women Talk Too Much (Link)
  • Ammaro: Women Talk Too Much and Men Don’t Listen (Link)

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Wahaha, I haven’t posted in a while because I was in such a lazy slump in the past two weeks. I still am, but at least I pulled myself to do it, since this is waaaay overdue. xP
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Anyways, the topic of the day is: what how my boyfriend and I celebrated his 22nd birthday!
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Just as the Valentine’s Day this year was our first together, this is the first time I’m celebrating his birthday, hence why I decided to make it extra special; so that he’d always remember it. =D
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Though I’m extremely overdue with this… because his birthday was on 5th March. xD
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A Mini Treasure Hunt Before the Actual Celebration!
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The treasure hunt cards
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Here’s what I did before the actual celebration: I made the cards using some leftover paper stuff from my Valentine’s Day card for him (see here for the full story!). I made 13 cards; 12 for a month of happiness for him (until next year!), and a bonus card for both our happiness together!
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The rule is: he has to find all 12 cards (the 13th is optional), where each card has one keyword that will tell him where his present is, and he has to find them before his birthday!
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And how did I hide them?
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Fridays are our “going out days”, where he picks me up after his class and after my work and we’ll go and have dinner and spend time together. So on the Friday before his birthday (29 February), as he was driving back to my place after dinner, I asked him to make a quick stop to his apartment unit, but I didn’t tell him why. Puzzled, he agreed after some slight persuasion.
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Then I told him to occupy himself with his comp while I lock myself in his room to hide those things, which made him feel even more puzzled. Then when I’m done in his room, I got him occupied with something else and (somehow, with him just a few steps from me!) managed to hide the remaining four cards around his computer area in the living room. xD
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Here’s the list of where I hid them:

Card # and Location

Keyword

1. Window pane

2. Laundry basket

3. Top corner of door

4. Under pillow

5. Keys basket

6. Clothes drawer

7. Water cooler

8. School bag

9. Shoe

10. Under keyboard

11. CD drawer

12. Comp chair

The

good

news

for

you

is

your

present’s

in

my

room!

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In the end he did find all of them… on the morning of his birthday itself. xD
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Each card, other than the keyword, has a chat bubble that indicates its location. For example, card #1 is stuck on his window pane (and across his window outside is a construction site), so the message on it is: “Help! I’m collecting dust out here… T_T” Card #9 is in his shoe, so the message on it is: “Great, now I’m a sock! >=O”
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So you can pretty much imagine what messages the other cards have. =D
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Pictures of cards #5 and #6:

Front of Card#5

Front of Card #5
Text: “Transformation no jutsu! *transforms into keys*”

Back of Card #5

Back of Card #5
Text:
“#5: Key basket!
Keyword: you”

Front of Card#6

Front of Card #6
Text: “Eeeeeeeeeek!!! O_____O!!”

Back of Card #6

Back of Card #6
Text:
“#6: Clothes Drawer!
Keyword: is”
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The Actual Celebration!
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On the night of his birthday (after my work), we went out for dinner with his gang of friends (we normally celebrate birthdays together!). The place we went to was sorta like a really big and commercialised hawker food centre; it’s really big and has wooden tables and stuff to imitate Hawaiian style! At least, I think it does… O_o
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We’ve been there a few times, and we went there again, but this time round, we managed to occupy one of the “VIP” tables, which is a table in a partially enclosed area made of 3 wooden walls and a roof. But since there were not many people occupying them anyway, we got those tables at no extra cost at all! Pretty high-classed for us. xP
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Anyways, I got him an ice cream cake, as opposed to getting a usual sponge cake or something. It’s his request anyway (who on earth would miss “ICE CREAM CAKE! ICE CREAM CAKE!!!” in the face? xD) so I picked the cake up after work (the building next to my office is a shopping centre, so it’s not a problem for me) and asked for extra dry ice so it’d last at least three hours before it melts. I even brought some disposable party plates and spoons from my house so that we could enjoy the cake nicely! =D
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Here’s a picture of the cake! (Name blurred out for privacy):

The ice cream cake and dry ice!

Text: “Happy Birthday (name)!”

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Looks delicious, isn’t it? It’s my first time eating ice cream cake, actually, so it’s a pretty good experience for me too! =D
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Of course, being the easily-excitable bunch they all were (especially with itchy hands!), they all just had to play with the remaining dry ice… which they put into leftover soup and such to form a lot of cold mist. xD
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It was a pretty fun outing for me, and I bet it is for my boyfriend too~
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After the Actual Celebration: His Present
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Well, after all the excitement, my boyfriend and I went over to my house after dropping the others back (he’s the designated chauffeur xP). Of course, he’ll need to get to my room because his present’s there, as stated in my cards!
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So, bringing along his presents received from his friends, we headed to my room. I gave him his cards and presents (which I made him search for while I was changing in the bathroom xD). Then I let him search for the bonus card… which he promptly found stuck on my back. xP
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Here’s the card I gave him:

The birthday cards

The bigger card is the actual birthday card.
The smaller card is the bonus card from the treasure hunt.
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Sad to say that this time, I didn’t hand-make the cards… but after all the plan I devised, like the treasure hunt, and after the Valentine’s Day card, I don’t think I’d have the energy or creativity to think of a new design for a birthday card, anyway. o_o
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Here’s the present I gave him:

The present with a model!

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That’s my cat, actually, I made her pose as a model so that I could portray the size of the present… xD
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The so-called paper bag I made using two pieces of wrapping paper (I wish I got three, actually, it was really hard to wrap it O_o) contains his present, which is a black sports bag from Nike (I bet you recognise the brand!) that resembles a schoolbag/backpack. My original plan was not to get him stuff from Nike, instead I was actually supposed to get the best looking bag (in my opinion). xP
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The reason why I got him this was because I wanted him to feel like a secondary school kid again (isn’t that fun? =D) and because his old bag is actually from a bank that his father used to work at. So I wanted him to have a feel of having his own bag! And his old bag squeaks anyway. Seriously!
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That, and the fact that I know most guys prefer practical presents. =D
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And as for what his friends gave him… all I can say is that they’re certainly treating him like an adult. xD
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It was a great day~!

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~Estrelita Farr, signing out!

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Yay! A new serial!
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I just feel like writing a serial, like a monthly magazine or something. xP
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There’s always been this “battle of the sexes” thing going on for years and years, and lots of people are generally stuck to the stereotyping of both genders. Even studies show that men and women are generally different when it comes to which part of the brain they use more.
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I’ve always been interested in these sort of things, because I find it amusing. Especially when it’s obvious when I’m with my boyfriend! xP
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Though, before you start, let me clarify a few things:

  • I will not agree to the statement that men (or women) are superior. Both have equal qualities, though may be better in different departments.
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  • I’ll be taking the stereotypical view of both genders, just so I don’t have to keep saying “but there are exceptions!” and making myself sound like a broken recorder. I know there are exceptions, just don’t make me repeat that so many times. =(
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  • The reason why I’m doing this is not to belittle the other gender, it’s for me (and hopefully, my boyfriend~) to understand the differences between the two, and maybe even appreciate them! I know I appreciate him knowing the roads better than I do. xP
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  • This has nothing to do with the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. I’ve read an excerpt of it, but this is not meant to steal things from there. This is to inform people (who’re interested enough to read this, anyway) in a way that I understand with my own experience!
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Now that we’ve settled with these things, let’s start~!
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Men and Venus? On Gender Differences

Chapter 1: The Map Question: “Why’re you reading it upside-down?!!”

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Yep, the ever existing question. It has long been a longstanding firm thinking that females simply can’t read maps and that men don’t need maps.
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While it’s true that there are exceptions to this case (like my mother, for example, she doesn’t really get that all lost!), I, however, am one of the poor unfortunate souls who can’t find her way out of a peanut butter jar. Of course, let me drive the same way a few hundred times and I’ll learn the road eventually, but seriously, I can never learn the road well even after some time!
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My boyfriend, on the other hand, is like your typical guy. No, it doesn’t mean he’s perfect when it comes to reading maps (he’s perfect in other departments though=D), but he still surprises me sometimes. Even before he starts out on a journey (by car or by foot), he’d map out the road he’d take! He’s been lost a few times, I’m know, though all or most of those times are because it’s his first time in the area (“this is outside my territory” was his exact phrase o_o) and because he followed my uselessly inaccurate directions!.
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Different, isn’t it? Here’s one of the points that shows how different both genders are.
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The human brain consists of roughly 40% grey matter and 60% white matter. Men use 6.5 times more grey matter than women, who use more white matter.
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Here’s the catch: grey matter is the brain’s CPU (not unlike the computer CPU), where all information in the brain is processed. This includes mathematical stuff (so that’s why he’s can calculate stuff in his head faster than I do! xO), remembering roads (I asked him if he has a mini-map in his head, like those in video games, and he said yeah O_o), and intellectual thoughts.
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White matter, on the other hand, is mainly used for emotional thinking, language usage and where the multitasking ability comes from.
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Sounds familiar?
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Here’s an excerpt from the Netscape News article I read (link at the bottom of post) to convince you further:
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What is the difference between gray matter and white matter? Gray is central to processing information and plays a vital role in aiding skills such as mathematics, map-reading, and intellectual thought. White matter connects the brain’s processing centers and is central to emotional thinking, use of language, and the ability to do more than one thing at once. Because women use less gray matter–critical to map-reading–they tend to have more difficulty with this skill than men.”
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Of course, there’s also that issue of differences in male and female visions, but I’ll cover that next time!
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So now I know why he’s so enthusiastic over calculating computer prices, and why he parks his car way better than I do… O_o
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Reverse parking FTW!
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Now that you know that my boyfriend has a mini-map in his head, what about what goes on in my head while going out?
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I don’t have a mini-map in my head, so I’m pretty scared of going out to new places on my own. As with most women, I recognise places by appearance and familiarity alone, hence why I use landmarks as my guide. If let’s say you just come up to me and ask me how to get somewhere, I won’t be able to tell you unless I’m actually taking the road myself. To put it simply, I go by the ah-I-remember-now-that-I’m-supposed-to-turn-right-at-this-traffic-light thinking, I wouldn’t know where to turn unless I’m looking at that exact spot. Plus, if I don’t recognise the place at all, my intuition will often point me in the wrong way. =(
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That means I get completely lost when my parents and boyfriend bring me to new places, and I’ll have to rely on them to show me about. T_T
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Here’s an excerpt from the BBC News article I read (link at the end of post):
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“This is because men and women navigate in different ways. Men take a bird’s eye view of their journey to get an overall sense of where they are going, whereas women break it down into bite-size chunks, navigating in relation to where they are at the time. This is why women turn maps around to match the direction they’re facing, and use landmarks to find their way.”
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But contrary to popular belief, I actually don’t read maps upside down. Besides, when women read maps upside down, it’s because they’re rotating the map so that it’ll match their surroundings, which again brings us to how females use appearances to remember roads. But I’m one of those who reads a map straight. O_o
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Then, based on the Sydney Morning Herald article that I read (link at the bottom of post), Dr Michael Tlauka, an expert in gender differences and spatial ability from Flinders University, said the explanation on this difference is based in both nature and nurture. An excerpt from the article:
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“Little boys are more likely to be given toy cars and train tracks to play with, and pushing these toys around develop spatial concepts that dressing a Barbie doll, for example, doesn’t.

Little boys are also more likely to be put on a soccer or football field than their sisters, Tlauka says, which also needs them to understand positioning and direction.”
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Eh, I’ve never played with dolls in my childhood; I played with toy cars and dinosaurs on my table. Then again, I don’t really play sports… o_o
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I still get lost. T_T
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So, ladies and gents, the moral of this story is: don’t ever ask me for directions!
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(I hope he’s reading this.)
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xP

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~Estrelita Farr, doesn’t like driving in case she gets lost. o_o
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.References used:

  • Netscape News: Why women can’t read maps (Link)
  • The Sydney Morning Herald: Why men can and women can’t read maps (Link)
  • BBC News: Battle of the sexes (Link)

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Homemade card and box

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Okay, okay, I know I’m a little late to be posting this, since Valentine’s was two weeks ago (and it’s March already!). But you have to remember that I just opened this blog last week, and I have to get together all my pictures for this post. xP
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Anyways, as for what I did this Valentine’s Day, I went all out to make a card and box (see picture!) all on my own! After all, I like making stuff (when I have the mood), and it was my first Valentine with my boyfriend, so wouldn’t that be special? =D
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(Though my mother mentioned I’m spoiling him when I showed her my card. xP)
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Photo Frame-style Card
(my own design!)
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Photo Frame-style Card (Front)This is how the front of the card looks like. It’s supposed to be a photo frame-style card, with a flower in the “slot” of the photo frame. Pretty elaborate, isn’t it? xP
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That pressed rose in the photo frame “slot” holds a very special meaning in my heart, because this is the sole “survivor” of the banquet of a dozen pink roses that my boyfriend gave last year when he professed. Pink roses look much better than red, in my opinion. =D
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(First time pressing and drying it, so don’t mind how it looks a little fugly!)
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I was going to use the flower to keep in some sort of a scrapbook or something, but I thought, “Hey, I’ve got a better idea! Use it for Valentine’s Day!” So technically, I gave him a flower for Valentine’s Day. xP

Photo frame-style card (exterior)

Exterior of the card.
Text on the front:
Happy Valentine’s Day
Text at the back:
Copywrite (insert nickname) ©2008
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Photo frame-style card (interior)

Interior of the card.

Text on the upper right:
A flower may wither, but the memory it brings is eternal.
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General info on the card:

  • There are actually two parts to the card itself.
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  • The front (the “frame”) is a box (measurements: length 14cm, width 20cm, depth about 3mm) with its insides padded with chip boards (at least, that’s what the paper storekeeper said…).
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  • The back (the part that you write on the inside) is just a piece of paper (measurements: length 28cm, width 20cm) folded into half with one side stuck onto the back of the “frame”.
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  • Then decorate it however you want!
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Tips on decorating your card:

  • Anything can be used to decorate your card! I used ribbons, wrapping paper and inexpensive stickers (see those heart shape decorations all over the card? =D) on top of the actual paper that I used to make the card!
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  • Google is your best friend for ideas. xP
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Hopefully you liked the card I made~
(He loved it. xP)
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Homemade Heart-shaped Box
(also my design, but with help!)
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Plastic heart-shaped box

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As much as I’d like to admit I did this all on my own, actually I didn’t. I went to Uncle Google to look for printable patterns that I can cut and paste. xP
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Here’s the site I got the steps from!
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If you noticed, actually my design is different from that of the site. That’s because instead of paper, I used plastic. Yes, I used plastic! Not the kind of plastic you use to wrap books with, it’s the plastic that you use for book binding (in front of the cover). I used it because I had… extra pieces. xP
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To cover the ugly parts where the side of the box is glued onto the base (it’s transparent, after all!), I glued some heart-shaped paper onto those areas using the same red paper I used for the card.
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Then I decorated the top with stickers so I’d know which side is the top. xD
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While stuffing chocolate into the box is the norm, actually I put in strawberry-flavoured marshmallows instead, because while he likes chocolate (sometimes), he can’t eat too many of them. If I put chocolates, he’d be forced to finish them and he’d have an aversion to chocolates for a long time! O_O
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So I put marshmallows, so it’s not 100% traditional~
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But as the saying goes in the anime Cooking Master Boy, “Yang Spring Restaurant’s tradition is to break the tradition!” To be creative and not stuck to the same thing over and over!
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Heck, I’m just trying to sound cool here. xP
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What I got for Valentine’s Day!
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Photo frame with love poem

The front of the photo frame.

The text in the frame:

You are the sparkle in my life
With you my world’s complete
From the first time that I saw you
I know our hearts would meet

I’ll always be beside you
And love you more each day
You are my one true satellite
And cherished you will stay
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Nyaaaaa~!!
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I go mad when I read it, I tell you. xP
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If you noticed the slightly-out-of-place silver writing just below the “I love you” phrase, that’s because I asked him to sign there! (Though the pen was too thick in the en.d xP)
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Why? Because I’d feel like I’ve gotten a celebrity’s autographed CD or something, and that says a lot because never before in my life I’d want something like that!
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(I don’t buy CDs, by the way, I download music. =D)
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And you can probably see my reflection in the frame. xP
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Whoops, that’s a long post! I just go on and on and on when I’ve something I feel passionate about~
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Well, hopefully you’ve got some ideas for future Valentine’s Day after reading this post… if you’re still here. xP.

~Estrelita Farr, signing out!

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